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PostSubject: "We Would Have Been Friends"   Thu Mar 28, 2013 11:58 am

I hear that a lot of girls saying they relate to E&D and would have been their friends, they would have had a lot in common.
Do you guys, a group of people who actually grasp the situation in it's entirety, think you can,still relate to Eric and/or Dylan? Would you have been friends with them, do you think?

I cant say that I would be friends with them; most likely not.. I wouldn't pick on them or anything. I think Eric was funny and smart. I like funny, smart people. But he would have hated me probably. He had such a mean streak and I'm thin skinned.
Dylan was so tall. I get intimidated by tall guys. Especially in that trench coat/duster, he looks scary to me
But he's been described as soft spoken. And the story of him passing cookies around to kids sitting next to him in class...I love cookies. The cookies would have made me want to be his friend and I think I could have been his friend until I heard him yell and then I'd run away very fast and that would have been the extent of our friendship. Cookies with no yelling.
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PostSubject: Re: "We Would Have Been Friends"   Thu Mar 28, 2013 12:17 pm

I was a depressed teen myself, completely caught up in my own little depressing thoughts...so the last two years of highschool I had very little friends in school, quite a lot outside though. They were older and/or attending another school. And there was lots of drinking and partying to forget about the pain. I actually can't remember much..I was sleeping in class or smoking outside(sounds familliar, huh?!)
So...would I be their friend? I highly doubt it, maybe some small talk over a cigarette. I was really into gangsta rap, so I guess Eric would have hated me: and I would have probably hated him, because I don't like people constantly ranting and complaining.
When I read how most people saw Dylan, I guess I would have found him adorable in a very platonic way. I had such a shy and akward friend: we had so much fun together!

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PostSubject: Re: "We Would Have Been Friends"   Thu Mar 28, 2013 12:20 pm

Haha BurnIt this made me laugh!! Smile
If I knew Eric and Dylan in high school I probably would have wanted to be friends with the both of them. Eric was funny smart, attractive and some girls even described him as very sweet. Plus to me they both seemed really cool, unique and interesting. If we weren't friends than I would always be nice to them and would tell others to be nice to them as well.

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PostSubject: Re: "We Would Have Been Friends"   Thu Mar 28, 2013 1:04 pm

As much as I'd love to say no I wouldn't, I think that I would be.

It's easy to say now looking back, absoloutely not, I'd have nothing to do with them but given the sitcuation and not knowing what I know now. Yes I would be.

I'm a lot more similar to Eric than to Dylan just with general humor and temperment, so that would either help us get along better or we'd be constantly at each others throats. I do think that over time I would develop a crush on him that would be one sided.

He probably wouldn't stand me though, I'm a slow walker, a Star Wars and country music fan, heaven forbid us be friends.

Dylan I don't think I'd be great pals with but I have heard that he was incredably sweet (when he wasn't killing people and having a great time doing so) I think that I'd talk to him when he was around, I don't like excluding people so I'd never ignore him. Couldn't see us being best friends or anything though.

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PostSubject: Re: "We Would Have Been Friends"   Thu Mar 28, 2013 1:15 pm

I think it's more difficult to know with Eric. He seemed to have a lot of falling outs with friends. Plus I get the feeling that he could like you one moment and then you could say or do something that he would take the wrong way and would hold a grudge.

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PostSubject: Re: "We Would Have Been Friends"   Thu Mar 28, 2013 1:17 pm

In case of Eric, I dont think its likely, we would had build a good friendship. Sooner or later we would probably have some arguments about something and he would start hating me.
In case of Dylan, however, its definitive thinkable, we could been friends. I like weird people, and besides that boring Rammstein+KMFDM stuff, we have a lot similar taste in music (Autechre, Atari Teenage Riot, The Prodigy, The Future Sound of London...I often wonder, I he knew/liked Aphex Twin).
Furthermore, our personalities are similar to some extent. I also prefer to live in some kind of fantasy-world with a lot things, which has only a special meaning for me.
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PostSubject: Re: "We Would Have Been Friends"   Thu Mar 28, 2013 2:20 pm

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I think it's more difficult to know with Eric. He seemed to have a lot of falling outs with friends. Plus I get the feeling that he could like you one moment and then you could say or do something that he would take the wrong way and would hold a grudge.

Yeah I get that to, I don't think it would be a strong bond type of thing but I think we'd at least trade sarcastic comments. How serious he'd take it, I'm not sure.

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PostSubject: Re: "We Would Have Been Friends"   Thu Mar 28, 2013 3:01 pm

Probably, probably not.
I could get along with people like them if you don't count the homicidal thoughts.
Around their age I was a depressed teenager too, had/enjoyed that 'gallows humor' you were talking about in the other thread, a lot into videogames, similarities in music tastes and more with Dylan's personality.
Though I'm a loner myself, won't talk to strangers if I'm not asked to and I'm generally not interested in new people, so all the 'getting to know them and eventually develope a friendship' would've had very small chances to happen

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PostSubject: Re: "We Would Have Been Friends"   Thu Mar 28, 2013 4:29 pm

I am pretty sure I would be friends with them. Not besties or anything like that, but more than casual acquaintances. In high school, I hung out with a group of guys who were pretty similar to E/D...except for that whole shooting up the school thing, of course. In fact, we were listed (in an informal jock sponsored poll) as the group most likely to pull a Columbine when it happened.

We pulled little stunts similar to the Rebel Missions and drank a lot of vodka. As the only girl consistently with the group, I ended up driving the getaway car most of the days. Ah, good ole days.

In all seriousness, though - we were angry at the world for reasons unknown, and we hated our school and it's culture. So I think I would have bonded with E/D over that, but that's as far as it would go.
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PostSubject: Re: "We Would Have Been Friends"   Thu Mar 28, 2013 4:42 pm

I want to say I'd have been Eric's friend. Maybe he dropped the mean streak around people who he thought were going to be nice back?
But he was intimidating. Not as physically intimidating as Dylan, but the I HATE ALL YOU PEOPLE vibes were intimidating.
Maybe if he had cookies too.

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PostSubject: Re: "We Would Have Been Friends"   Thu Mar 28, 2013 5:24 pm

Well in an interview a TCM member Alex Marsh said that E/D were the sweetest guys in the world if they liked you but if they hated you- you better watch your back. I think you are right and Eric only had a mean streak with people that he didn't like. I also heard somewhere that they both would bring flowers and give them to certain girls. I'm not sure how true that is though.

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PostSubject: Re: "We Would Have Been Friends"   Thu Mar 28, 2013 8:03 pm

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Well in an interview a TCM member Alex Marsh said that E/D were the sweetest guys in the world if they liked you but if they hated you- you better watch your back. I think you are right and Eric only had a mean streak with people that he didn't like. I also heard somewhere that they both would bring flowers and give them to certain girls. I'm not sure how true that is though.

Well reading that hit me a bit harder than I thought it would.
Maybe because I'm sort of like that myself.
Every once in a while I sort of look sideways at the whole thing and I can see glimpses of me in Eric and Dylan and I have to say, I don't like it one bit.

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PostSubject: Re: "We Would Have Been Friends"   Thu Mar 28, 2013 9:03 pm

The interview where she talks about it is on Columbine understanding why which I thought was a really great documentary and can be found on Youtube or Netflix incase you haven't watched it already.

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PostSubject: Re: "We Would Have Been Friends"   Sat Dec 09, 2017 6:43 pm

if I had went to school with Eric, I would have been the one, who would have just loved to be Eric's friend but would have been too nervous to approach him lol. I think too though that Eric would be the one who would have you cracking up laughing. I think between him and Dylan, Eric was the more entertaining one. Dylan would be too quiet for me, jmo.
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PostSubject: Re: "We Would Have Been Friends"   Sun Dec 10, 2017 1:45 am

I haven't heard of the flowers but I heard of cookies, Dylan would bring cookies to class and there was a friend of Eric's, a girl, who said he would give her a hug and tell her how beautiful she was but it was platonic because she was engaged. I think Bree was engaged too... lots of girls back then were engaged at such a young age. I wonder if that all worked out

Just from visiting the area seems so much more accepting in many ways but it is very homogenous too. It's an interesting place none the less.
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PostSubject: Re: "We Would Have Been Friends"   Sun Dec 10, 2017 4:02 am

At school I wouldn't shut up about Doom, even though nobody knew the game aside from me. It raced through my mind constantly. I would play it until I was physically sick and my vision would sway back and fourth like the movements of the game to the point where I had to hold onto the ground and lost track of where I was because the dizziness was so severe it felt like the world was shaking. I would then sit in a hot bath to calm down and still not know where I was and would see demons from the game in front of me clear as day. My nickname was 'Doom Boy' and i'd spend the entire class drawing pictures of the game and thinking of it. It was beyond an obsession to me. When I didn't play it I would be thinking about it.

So yeah I think back then, had I been 17, 18 I could have talked 48 hours with Eric about that game. And since they were friends with people like Mike V and Erik Veik who were utter dweebs and didn't have anything interesting to talk about other than fixing their cars, I think Eric would have talked to me for sure. I'd often think or say things too, then read Eric's journal and word for word he'd have the same views as me which would shock me.
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PostSubject: Re: "We Would Have Been Friends"   Wed Dec 27, 2017 3:56 am

Honestly, I would of been friends with Eric. We’re drastically different in overall personality but I can see us relating on having conversations while being sarcastically edgy since I was like that throughout high school and still am sometimes since I’m only 19. like if we both happened to be rubbed the wrong way by the same bully, I could see him making fucked up jokes about how he wants to shoot up the school and me sarcastically agreeing (obviously if I didn’t know he was serious)
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PostSubject: Re: "We Would Have Been Friends"   Wed Dec 27, 2017 7:24 am

I wouldn't have been friends with them. I would have thought they were too immature and weird. However if I met them at a party I would probably love to be the one to confront them if they say some stupid nazi shit and have an actual discussion. I'm a bit of a drama queen just like Eric so he would have liked that too. Life as an Aries. Rolling Eyes
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PostSubject: Re: "We Would Have Been Friends"   Wed Dec 27, 2017 9:03 am

I'm not sure about Eric but I would have probably gotten along with Dylan. At least I'd know him through theatre. I was pretty shy too but knowing HS me, I would have liked Dylan from what I know about him.
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PostSubject: Re: "We Would Have Been Friends"   Wed Dec 27, 2017 9:06 am

There's a picture of Richard Castaldo that I remember seeing, and one of the stickers he has decorating his wheelchair is a NIN logo. Something about that really gets to me because E&D really thought they were so different from their peers. But one of Dylan's favorite bands who's music resounded with him was also liked by one of their victims.

I wonder who in Columbine had things in common with them and may have actually gotten along with them, had they gotten a chance to just talk, outside of all the cliques.
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PostSubject: Re: "We Would Have Been Friends"   Wed Dec 27, 2017 9:13 am

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There's a picture of Richard Castaldo that I remember seeing, and one of the stickers he has decorating his wheelchair is a NIN logo. Something about that really gets to me because E&D really thought they were so different from their peers. But one of Dylan's favorite bands who's music resounded with him was also liked by one of their victims.

I wonder who in Columbine had things in common with them and may have actually gotten along with them, had they gotten a chance to just talk, outside of all the cliques.

Probably more than they possibly realized

Wasn't there a story that a girl was singing a Rammstein song and Eric just made fun of her? Instead of being like, I love that band it's my favorite
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PostSubject: Re: "We Would Have Been Friends"   Wed Dec 27, 2017 9:16 am

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There's a picture of Richard Castaldo that I remember seeing, and one of the stickers he has decorating his wheelchair is a NIN logo. Something about that really gets to me because E&D really thought they were so different from their peers. But one of Dylan's favorite bands who's music resounded with him was also liked by one of their victims.

I wonder who in Columbine had things in common with them and may have actually gotten along with them, had they gotten a chance to just talk, outside of all the cliques.

Probably more than they possibly realized

Wasn't there a story that a girl was singing a Rammstein song and Eric just made fun of her? Instead of being like, I love that band it's my favorite

I've never heard that one, but I think I heard a story about a girl wearing a Rammstein shirt or having a sticker on her car and Eric leaving a note on her car because he realized she liked them too. I'll have to see if I can find that.

Edit: it was Megan Minger
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PostSubject: Re: "We Would Have Been Friends"   Wed Dec 27, 2017 10:22 am

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There's a picture of Richard Castaldo that I remember seeing, and one of the stickers he has decorating his wheelchair is a NIN logo. Something about that really gets to me because E&D really thought they were so different from their peers. But one of Dylan's favorite bands who's music resounded with him was also liked by one of their victims.

I wonder who in Columbine had things in common with them and may have actually gotten along with them, had they gotten a chance to just talk, outside of all the cliques.

Probably more than they possibly realized

Wasn't there a story that a girl was singing a Rammstein song and Eric just made fun of her? Instead of being like, I love that band it's my favorite

I've never heard that one, but I think I heard a story about a girl wearing a Rammstein shirt or having a sticker on her car and Eric leaving a note on her car because he realized she liked them too. I'll have to see if I can find that.

Edit: it was Megan Minger

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PostSubject: Re: "We Would Have Been Friends"   Wed Dec 27, 2017 10:25 am

I was a bit of a bully when I was in High School but it was because I got heaps of crap for years -- pushing me to that.

Yeah in a way I guess I could see myself getting along with Eric and Dylan. They were kinda like that pre-shooting.
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PostSubject: Re: "We Would Have Been Friends"   Wed Dec 27, 2017 10:26 am

Jennifer Harmon was the one from my story. I think Dylan told Eric to knock it off.

That seems to be a theme sometimes when it comes to Eric. Eric being a jerk and Dylan telling him to knock it off.
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PostSubject: Re: "We Would Have Been Friends"   Wed Dec 27, 2017 10:27 am

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Jennifer Harmon was the one from my story. I think Dylan told Eric to knock it off.

That seems to be a theme sometimes when it comes to Eric. Eric being a jerk and Dylan telling him to knock it off.
Yet Dylan was the one ranting and raving, making fun of people's races, looks, and everything about them come the day of the shooting. Eric was stone faced and unemotional.

I think Dylan was a real nasty piece of work too.
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PostSubject: Re: "We Would Have Been Friends"   Wed Dec 27, 2017 11:01 am

Dylan probably just didn't like the awkward social interactions that Eric may have gotten into, so he tried to minimize it. But when it came down to it and he had nothing to lose, he was extremely cruel during the shooting. He was also cruel when writing or talking privately to Eric (you can see in his yearbook writings, and as seen on TBT transcripts).
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PostSubject: Re: "We Would Have Been Friends"   Wed Dec 27, 2017 11:09 am

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Dylan probably just didn't like the awkward social interactions that Eric may have gotten into, so he tried to minimize it. But when it came down to it and he had nothing to lose, he was extremely cruel during the shooting. He was also cruel when writing or talking privately to Eric (you can see in his yearbook writings, and as seen on TBT transcripts).

That is another thing that shocked people about Dylan. Which is why Dylan was scarier in many ways. He was a wolf in sheeps clothing.

He was known to be a gentle, shy and goofy kid then unleashed his own cruel hell on people.

I still don't think Dylan was 100% evil, just like I don't think Eric was a psychopath devoid of emotions. They were both equally culpable. I was more speaking of how they were at school day to day.
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PostSubject: Re: "We Would Have Been Friends"   Wed Dec 27, 2017 11:27 am

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Dylan probably just didn't like the awkward social interactions that Eric may have gotten into, so he tried to minimize it. But when it came down to it and he had nothing to lose, he was extremely cruel during the shooting. He was also cruel when writing or talking privately to Eric (you can see in his yearbook writings, and as seen on TBT transcripts).

That is another thing that shocked people about Dylan. Which is why Dylan was scarier in many ways. He was a wolf in sheeps clothing.

He was known to be a gentle, shy and goofy kid then unleashed his own cruel hell on people.

I still don't think Dylan was 100% evil, just like I don't think Eric was a psychopath devoid of emotions. They were both equally culpable. I was more speaking of how they were at school day to day.

I agree that they were both culpable. I just don't feel right assigning more blame to one than the other. They both did what they did, both took part in the shooting and planning, and enjoyed doing it.

I know there is tons of evidence to look over to form an opinion on who's idea it was, but we will never know for certain, so I don't feel right making that claim.
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PostSubject: Re: "We Would Have Been Friends"   Wed Dec 27, 2017 11:31 am

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Dylan probably just didn't like the awkward social interactions that Eric may have gotten into, so he tried to minimize it. But when it came down to it and he had nothing to lose, he was extremely cruel during the shooting. He was also cruel when writing or talking privately to Eric (you can see in his yearbook writings, and as seen on TBT transcripts).

That is another thing that shocked people about Dylan. Which is why Dylan was scarier in many ways. He was a wolf in sheeps clothing.

He was known to be a gentle, shy and goofy kid then unleashed his own cruel hell on people.


I still don't think Dylan was 100% evil, just like I don't think Eric was a psychopath devoid of emotions. They were both equally culpable. I was more speaking of how they were at school day to day.
You just described a sociopath to a tee. That to me makes Dylan evil.
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