Interview with Nate D.

More Insight on Dylan Klebold

Good Morning America

Friday, April 30, 1999
(This is an unedited, uncorrected transcript.)
CHARLES GIBSON, HOST The overwhelming question about the Columbine rampage is why. Eric Harris, Dylan Klebold, how could two young men from such a privileged community go bad?
Well, we’re going to talk with one of Dylan Klebold’s best friend, perhaps his best friend, other than Eric Harris. Nathan Dykeman is joining us this morning in an exclusive interview from Land O Lakes, Florida. He is joining us along with his father, Matthew Dykeman. And Barbara and I are going to have a chance to talk to both of them.
And Nathan, I appreciate you joining us. Let me take you back to that day, let me talk to you about Tuesday. Now, I know you’re down in Florida because you’ve gone simply to get away from Littleton, go down there with your dad. But you were at the school on Tuesday, right?

NATHAN DYKEMAN, DYLAN KLEBOLD’S FRIEND Yes, I was.

CHARLES GIBSON And did you see Eric and Dylan on Tuesday?

NATHAN DYKEMAN I had not seen Dylan on Tuesday, but Eric I saw briefly just as I was leaving. I go home every day for lunch. And as I was pulling out at lunchtime, I saw him walking in the school.

CHARLES GIBSON Did you hear about the shootings when you were at home during lunch?

NATHAN DYKEMAN No, it was on my return to school that—when I couldn’t get back to school, that I had found out this all had begun.

CHARLES GIBSON And what did you think?

NATHAN DYKEMAN Just that this wasn’t happening, and it’s just a horrible, horrible nightmare, and can’t possibly be happening in, like, little old Columbine, and why is such a horrible thing happening there, you know?

CHARLES GIBSON Did you think about who might be responsible?

NATHAN DYKEMAN I did. I just—it had not been normal circumstances that day. Both of them to be absent, and Eric walking in at lunchtime from an—- he seemed to be walking in from a different parking lot than he normally parks at. And just lots of things led up to it that gave me this overall gut feeling that this possibly could be them.

CHARLES GIBSON So you suspected them. And what was the—I mean, other than walking in from the wrong parking lot and just feeling that something might be wrong, was there something in your mind that said to you, This might be Dylan and Eric?

NATHAN DYKEMAN Just the fact that both of them were absent on the same day. And usually if one—if Dylan’s absent or going to be absent, knows it, and he usually does, he’ll tell me where he’s going or I’ll hear something from him, but I hadn’t heard anything all day or the previous day about him being gone.

CHARLES GIBSON But I gather you called the Klebolds ...

NATHAN DYKEMAN Yes, I was ...

CHARLES GIBSON ... fairly soon and suggested to them that Dylan might be one of the shooters.

NATHAN DYKEMAN Well, I’d called first just, you know—I was concerned, I was calling all my friends, trying to make sure that they got out and they were OK. And Dylan’s parents I called last, because I—I called them with the hope that he was there and be OK and everything, and it basically eased up to me telling them that I think that he was involved in it, and I think he could possibly be in the school.

CHARLES GIBSON You were talking to Mr. Klebold?

NATHAN DYKEMAN Yes, I was the one that broke the news to Mr. Klebold.

CHARLES GIBSON Who you know very well, having spent so much time at their
house?
NATHAN DYKEMAN Yes, yes.

CHARLES GIBSON And what did he say when you said Dylan might be one of the shooters?

NATHAN DYKEMAN He was just in shock. He was speechless. And I also thought he was going to, like, drop the phone. He just could not believe that this could possibly be happening, and his son was involved in this. And he said just, “Please keep me informed on whatever you hear.” And he got off the phone with me to contact the authorities.

BARBARA WALTERS, HOST Now, you were a very close friend of Dylan’s. And from what we’ve read and heard, Dylan and Eric felt that they were hated, they were called weirdo freaks, fag. And yet you were his friend. Were they hated? Were they gay?

NATHAN DYKEMAN Definitely, neither of them were gay. Dylan, as far as the whole hated issue goes, he really could care less. He had his own friends. He was graduating soon, accepted at the University of Arizona, had a real bright future ahead of him, could really care less what anybody said. He knew he had his friends, and his friends loved him, and that’s all that really mattered to him.

BARBARA WALTERS Well, then how can you, as his friend—I’m sure you’ve thought about this so much—do you have any way of explaining what happened, what triggered ...

NATHAN DYKEMAN Absolutely ...

BARBARA WALTERS ... using that word—that day?

NATHAN DYKEMAN Absolutely none whatsoever. It just—it—I can’t fathom what must be going through their minds to ever do something like this. I mean, especially being so close to graduation. I mean, if they—the students really were bothering them that bad, just the fact alone that we were graduating in two weeks should have been some incentive, you know, just to be done with it (inaudible) ...

BARBARA WALTERS But did you see the other kids taunting him?

NATHAN DYKEMAN Dylan, never, and Dylan I’m pretty sure never had a problem with it. But Eric, yes, they’d taunt him and harass him in the halls and make fun of the music he listened to, and—yes.

BARBARA WALTERS But not Dylan.

NATHAN DYKEMAN Not Dylan, Dylan ...

BARBARA WALTERS Did you know that he was obsessed with Hitler and Nazis and swastikas? Any feeling about that? Any expression of that?

NATHAN DYKEMAN Dylan never was, but Eric had—always—would always doodle swastikas and such, and talk about Hitler and stuff. He was in German class a lot, so I figured maybe some of it had to do with studying in German class, and it was all part of the class or something, so I never really gave it much thought.

CHARLES GIBSON Nathan, you went—on the Saturday night preceding the shootings, you went to the prom, I gather, along with Dylan.

NATHAN DYKEMAN Yes, I did. Yes, I did.

CHARLES GIBSON Shared a limousine with your dates?

NATHAN DYKEMAN Yes.

CHARLES GIBSON The four of you?

NATHAN DYKEMAN Actually there was 12 of us total.

CHARLES GIBSON Twelve of you in the—all right. Tell me what Dylan was like that night, what his attitude was. He’s just three days away, at that point, from carrying out this horrific act. There were signs that it had been planned for such a long time. So what was his attitude on that Saturday night?

NATHAN DYKEMAN Just like you should be at your senior prom. We were just having a wonderful time, a great night, first time in a limo for both me and Dylan. We loved the company we were with, the food’s great, the evening’s great, everything is going perfect as planned. And no hints whatsoever at anything that could possibly be wrong. I mean, we were just having a great time. It’s our senior prom, and we’re enjoying it like we should be.

CHARLES GIBSON Tell me about the moment you went out together to get a cigarette.

NATHAN DYKEMAN Yes, it was after dinner, and we stepped out. He wanted to have a cigarette, and wanted me to come with him. And we just, you know, talked about future plans, how this would all be wrapping up pretty shortly. He’d be going to the University of Arizona and I’d be moving here to Florida to go to school for Microsoft. And, you know, we talked about reunion plans and what we hoped each other would have accomplished by the time reunion rolled around, and ...

CHARLES GIBSON He was talking about the future.

NATHAN DYKEMAN Yes, I mean, which—I mean, that’s the scary part, is he was talking about the future. And I honestly believe in my heart that he intended to be here right now.

CHARLES GIBSON Let me talk to you a little bit about the Klebolds, because you said you called the Klebolds on that day, and you know the family well. Have you seen them since the shootings?

NATHAN DYKEMAN I had stopped in and visited with them and gave them my respects just before I left for Florida.

CHARLES GIBSON How are they doing?

NATHAN DYKEMAN They’re doing as well as, I guess, can be expected, but their son Byron was having difficulties with it, and I think really just needed to talk to all Dylan’s friends that he possibly could.
They had been really, really close brothers, as when they were kids, and up until recently here, Byron lived at home, but he moved out here recently, so he kind of—there was a gap in the friendship, and he kind of felt really guilty and wanted to be filled in on what was happening while he was gone, and just to get some clue of why this possibly could have happened.

CHARLES GIBSON Mr. Dykeman, let me turn to you. I—and I—just in—if people are not—are a little confused about all this, this is a—Nathan’s parents, you and your wife, were divorced, and you’re living down in Florida, and you came to pick Nathan up and take him to Florida just to get him away, is that right?

MATTHEW DYKEMAN, NATHAN’S FATHER Well, he was planning on coming here after he graduated anyway. But yes, with all this, I just felt like—I really felt like after the shock turned to grief, and then the grief might turn to anger, and being that he was close with both the shooters, that, you know, there might be some retaliation. So I really felt like I needed to be there for him.

CHARLES GIBSON But I gather you met the Klebolds at the same time Nathan went over to talk to them, and I’m just wondering about your impressions.

MATTHEW DYKEMAN I just can’t begin to sort of relay to you the profound sense of grief I felt for this people. It was real similar to the grief I felt when I went to the memorial ceremony with 70,000 people, except this was different, these people are, like, completely isolated.
You know, the community has a community that’s—to support the families of the victims, but these people just have nobody. They’re like in a glass cage.
And they have no more pieces to this puzzle than anybody else has. It’s just ...

BARBARA WALTERS Can you share with us a little bit of what they said to you? I mean, they read the papers that say there maybe criminal charges. You say they’re isolated. What did they say to you, Mr. Dykeman?

MATTHEW DYKEMAN I just—I met a father that—I met a family that sits down at Sunday dinner with their kids and share a banner (?) at the table. I met a father who tinkers on BMWs, old BMWs, and his kids share that love. And I met a mother that had her baby just ripped away from her right when she was getting ready to see him spread his wings, you know.
And Mr. Klebold said that his son would always come talk to him if he had something on his mind. It may take a few days, but he said he was always there to listen to him, and they had a great relationship. And neither one of them ever saw this coming.

BARBARA WALTERS And there was nothing in the room, for example, there were no hints, there were no guns, there were no—there was no, let’s say, evidence of anything going wrong? That they could detect?

MATTHEW DYKEMAN No, no, just a normal kid with a normal room. You know, I can’t—my—Nathan could probably explain that to you better, but, you know, by the time we got there, the room was completely ravaged and anything that was his that was important was gone anyway, but—yes.

CHARLES GIBSON Nathan, do you think there are any signs that people missed? Was there any hint? I mean, you say you suspected on Tuesday that perhaps it was these two boys, so there must have been something that was going on that made people think, Ah, Eric.

NATHAN DYKEMAN Just really—just all the events leading up to that day, just like them both being absent on the same day, just—I—it’s just something—a feeling, I can’t explain, you know something’s just not right. Not—not necessarily a bad thing, but something’s just out of the ordinary that day, you know.

CHARLES GIBSON Let me ask you something that—and this is tough stuff. But you had a friend, I gather, that was, for a period of time on Tuesday, right in the line of fire. There was a gun held right to one of your friend’s head, I guess, on Tuesday, is that right?

NATHAN DYKEMAN Yes, my best friend, Tim Cassell (ph), was held at gunpoint by Dylan.

CHARLES GIBSON And it was Dylan who had the gun in his hand?

NATHAN DYKEMAN Yes.

CHARLES GIBSON But Dylan did not shoot your friend, right?

NATHAN DYKEMAN No, from what I gathered from Tim, he—I guess Dylan saw him and saw it was Tim, and then I guess snapped out of it for a moment, and then told—like, motioned Tim to get out, and of course Tim didn’t waste a second, just got the heck out of there.

CHARLES GIBSON Did Tim tell you who was pulling the trigger, who was doing the shooting, who was it, which of those two was killing people, or were both?

NATHAN DYKEMAN He didn’t really ever mention that to me. He was just in shock that this could be happening. I mean, he was—he—Tim is the kind of guy that’s always, you know, happy—go—lucky, cracking jokes always.
And to see him just shook up and scared and crying was just—it’s amazing to see him—I can’t even begin to put it into words. It’s just somebody—it’s totally not like him to seem this upset. And he just, you know, can’t believe this is happening.

BARBARA WALTERS Nathan, guns, we know now that Dylan’s girlfriend somehow or other got him some guns or got some guns. Were there guns around? Did other kids have guns?

NATHAN DYKEMAN I’ve—in my four years at Columbine, I have never once seen a gun, never once seen any drugs in the hall, no weapons at all of any caliber I have ever seen at Columbine. Columbine’s been a great school, and to the best of my knowledge it has been clean of any weapons or drugs.

CHARLES GIBSON Did you know that Dylan and Eric were collecting guns?

NATHAN DYKEMAN I did not, I did not.

BARBARA WALTERS Do you know—you must know Dylan’s girlfriend, because you were together at the prom, Robyn, correct?

NATHAN DYKEMAN Yes, she wasn’t really a girlfriend, she was just a—they went as friends to the prom together.

BARBARA WALTERS Well, whatever the relationship is, can you describe her to us, or what you think her role might possibly have been?

NATHAN DYKEMAN I cannot possibly believe that she had anything to do with this, any prior knowledge of this, and ...

BARBARA WALTERS Why not?

NATHAN DYKEMAN She’s just a wonderful person, loving person that loves anybody, and hard worker and a very responsible young lady.

CHARLES GIBSON Well, Nathan, I appreciate your being with us ...

NATHAN DYKEMAN Thank you.

CHARLES GIBSON ... and we appreciate your father being with us as well. I know these are tough times for you, and I hope you’re doing OK. This is very hard when your friends are going through this. And we’ll talk to you again. Thanks very much.

NATHAN DYKEMAN Right, thank you.

BARBARA WALTERS Thank you.

Catherine18M3 wrote:

NATHAN DYKEMAN Yes, my best friend, Tim Cassell (ph), was held at gunpoint by Dylan.

CHARLES GIBSON And it was Dylan who had the gun in his hand?

NATHAN DYKEMAN Yes.

CHARLES GIBSON But Dylan did not shoot your friend, right?

NATHAN DYKEMAN No, from what I gathered from Tim, he—I guess Dylan saw him and saw it was Tim, and then I guess snapped out of it for a moment, and then told—like, motioned Tim to get out, and of course Tim didn’t waste a second, just got the heck out of there.

CHARLES GIBSON Did Tim tell you who was pulling the trigger, who was doing the shooting, who was it, which of those two was killing people, or were both?

NATHAN DYKEMAN He didn’t really ever mention that to me. He was just in shock that this could be happening. I mean, he was—he—Tim is the kind of guy that’s always, you know, happy—go—lucky, cracking jokes always.
And to see him just shook up and scared and crying was just—it’s amazing to see him—I can’t even begin to put it into words. It’s just somebody—it’s totally not like him to seem this upset. And he just, you know, can’t believe this is happening.

This gets me every time. How bizarre and awkward that must have been for both of them.  In a perverse way, it's a lucky thing Dylan didn't run into a bunch of other people he cared about.  I speculate that that would've put a huge damper on NBK for him.  Easier to kill faceless strangers but even still after a verbal confrontation with jock Evan Todd, Dylan sort of 'snaps out of it' and doesn't kill him.  What if he had run into Sarah Slater, ironically, locked away in the closet with 17 people including Sam Granillo?  Or run into Marla Foust, Nate, Zach, Robin or Devon?  Being a remorseless killing machine would not have be so clear cut anymore.

Thank's for posting this!

Welcome!

Thanks for posting this interview!
I just saw the dedication Nate made to Dylan end Eric in the 1999 yearbook. This broke my heart. He must be so bitter about this now.
I hope Nate is having a good life now and could leave this behind somehow. Does anybody know what he is doing nowadays?

Welcome!
Didn't Nate say something along the lines of high school has been the best of times and worst of times. But thankyou Eric and Dylan for always getting me through? Reading Susan's letter to Eric always breaks my heart.

Thank you!
It says "High School has been the best of times and the worst of times, but through it all two guys have been with me. Thanks for the memories and everlasting friendship Dylan and Eric."   
I wonder if Dylan and Eric even knew about this dedication. Wasn't this yearbook printed after 4/20? Or am I wrong?
I didn't know about this letter, where can I read this? I'm quite new to researching Columbine and this forum. ;) 

I don't think so since it was printed after 4/20. Dylan's name in the back of the yearbook was taken out and I think an ode to the TCM was taken out too.

Here is the letter. I cant even read it without tearing up.   

Eric David Harris,

I didn't know the person hiding under your smile. I didn't know about the pain you carried in your heart. I didn't know the torture you endured for so long. And I didn't want to believe you were capable of such destruction. I didn't know I could feel such pain for someone I really didn't know. If I knew what your eyes hid, and what your mind was screaming, maybe I could have helped you. I could have loved you. All I know is the pain I am feeling inside. All I know is the person I talked to everyday, the person who seemed happy, the person who always helped me and made sure I had everything I needed. I see your picture on the pages, they say what a monster you are, they say how you were mean and cruel. But you see, I can't believe what they say. I knew the smiling person, the person who helped me. I don't want to hear it anymore. I want it to go away, the angry cries well up in me and I hate you for making me so scared and sad. Leaving me without any explanation. Leaving me with wandering thoughts and hollow cries. Did you try and reach me? Did you try to tell me? I will live with the memories and the unanswered questions I hold in my heart. Not a day will go by that I will not wonder why. As times goes by, I am getting stronger, but then the moment comes when I break down and cry. I am so sorry I didn't see the rage you had inside. I am sorry I was so blind and couldn't see all the things you tried to show me. No matter how wrong you were, I will love the person who smiled and said "Hi" to me everyday. I promise to never forget the person I knew, and forget the person they say you were.

Love Always and Forever,

Susan DeWitt

CatherineM813 wrote:

I don't think so since it was printed after 4/20. Dylan's name in the back of the yearbook was taken out and I think an ode to the TCM was taken out too.

Here is the letter. I cant even read it without tearing up.   

Eric David Harris,

I didn't know the person hiding under your smile. I didn't know about the pain you carried in your heart. I didn't know the torture you endured for so long. And I didn't want to believe you were capable of such destruction. I didn't know I could feel such pain for someone I really didn't know. If I knew what your eyes hid, and what your mind was screaming, maybe I could have helped you. I could have loved you. All I know is the pain I am feeling inside. All I know is the person I talked to everyday, the person who seemed happy, the person who always helped me and made sure I had everything I needed. I see your picture on the pages, they say what a monster you are, they say how you were mean and cruel. But you see, I can't believe what they say. I knew the smiling person, the person who helped me. I don't want to hear it anymore. I want it to go away, the angry cries well up in me and I hate you for making me so scared and sad. Leaving me without any explanation. Leaving me with wandering thoughts and hollow cries. Did you try and reach me? Did you try to tell me? I will live with the memories and the unanswered questions I hold in my heart. Not a day will go by that I will not wonder why. As times goes by, I am getting stronger, but then the moment comes when I break down and cry. I am so sorry I didn't see the rage you had inside. I am sorry I was so blind and couldn't see all the things you tried to show me. No matter how wrong you were, I will love the person who smiled and said "Hi" to me everyday. I promise to never forget the person I knew, and forget the person they say you were.

Love Always and Forever,

Susan DeWitt

I guess she probably felt much like Eric's parents and close friends would have felt. Knowing that maybe there was something that you could have missed, or something you should have said one time and never did. It's very easy to bring things onto yourself in situations like this. "Why didn't you ask the right question, or what did you miss?" It really makes you think about the very small things.   

nevermind wrote:

Thank you!
It says "High School has been the best of times and the worst of times, but through it all two guys have been with me. Thanks for the memories and everlasting friendship Dylan and Eric."   
I wonder if Dylan and Eric even knew about this dedication. Wasn't this yearbook printed after 4/20? Or am I wrong?
I didn't know about this letter, where can I read this? I'm quite new to researching Columbine and this forum. ;) 

Welcome to the forum and what made you become interested in Columbine? Try not to get to consume with it as most people tend to do.

CatherineM813 wrote:

nevermind wrote:

Thank you!
It says "High School has been the best of times and the worst of times, but through it all two guys have been with me. Thanks for the memories and everlasting friendship Dylan and Eric."   
I wonder if Dylan and Eric even knew about this dedication. Wasn't this yearbook printed after 4/20? Or am I wrong?
I didn't know about this letter, where can I read this? I'm quite new to researching Columbine and this forum. ;) 

Welcome to the forum and what made you become interested in Columbine? Try not to get to consume with it as most people tend to do.

Thank you for the letter and the welcome!

The letter captures the pain the families of Eric and Dylan and their friends must have gone through. I can't imagine how painful it had/has to be for the parents and close friends like Nate...

I really don't know what made me interested. I was only reading the wikipedia article about it and I started researching. I sometimes do this on several topics but I usually lose interest after a couple of days, but with Columbine it's different. I guess it is a fascinating incident...
But I do try not to get too much into it because then I think about this every day. But I keep coming back to this forum.

Welcome!

It most certainly does. I don't even want to begin to fathom how much pain and devastation they were in. It's heart wrenching and I really hope they are doing much better these days. It must be difficult around certain times though like the holidays, birthdays, anniversary.

That's exactly where I started my fascination with Columbine and I was immediately hooked.

Wow, Susan's letter is truly heartbreaking.

Dylan reported to Nate every time he missed school, and yet never spoke to him about the bullying. Just seems weird, maybe they weren't that close?

maninthebox wrote:

Dylan reported to Nate every time he missed school, and yet never spoke to him about the bullying. Just seems weird, maybe they weren't that close?

Maybe, he was uncomfortable when it came to talk about bullying.

TheFragile wrote:

maninthebox wrote:

Dylan reported to Nate every time he missed school, and yet never spoke to him about the bullying. Just seems weird, maybe they weren't that close?

Maybe, he was uncomfortable when it came to talk about bullying.

Still, don't you think he would have known from just being with Dylan in the school? Many people said that he was bullied a lot, even some random people noticed it, but not his close friend

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Nate wasn't around Dylan 24/7 and a lot of people, especially guys rag on each other.. maybe Nate didn't think of it as actual "bullying" but someone like Dylan would have marked down every incident as something bad, something that proved the world was against him and he was different than everyone.

Screamingophelia wrote:

Nate wasn't around Dylan 24/7 and a lot of people, especially guys rag on each other.. maybe Nate didn't think of it as actual "bullying" but someone like Dylan would have marked down every incident as something bad, something that proved the world was against him and he was different than everyone.

Dylan had grievances from preschool, if reports of the basement tapes are to be believed.

Screamingophelia wrote:

Nate wasn't around Dylan 24/7 and a lot of people, especially guys rag on each other.. maybe Nate didn't think of it as actual "bullying" but someone like Dylan would have marked down every incident as something bad, something that proved the world was against him and he was different than everyone.

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No, but he was one of their closest friends, if I remember correctly? So was Devon Adams and Robyn Anderson. Robyn Anderson claimed the never did see them getting bullied. Devon Adams did say something along the lines that they would get angry looks( which I assume can have different meanings to it, because Eric and Dylan could be quite the bullies, themselves and they got into fights with other students) and that she was once slammed into a locker by a jock for talking to Dylan. She also remarked that Eric was a 'scary kid', Judging from what she said, it seems like Eric wasnt exactly nice to her. Allthough, I havent heard it from anyone else.

Put into proper context, however, it doesnt seem like hes specifically saying that Dylan wasnt bullied. Just that he didnt care.