Parental Relationships

I wasn't entirely sure where to put this, but from what we know Eric and Dylan seemed to have a pretty good relationship with their parents.

Are they the only ones? Did Elliott Rodgers parents talk about him at all? Has any other shooters friends of families come out with stories about them that were good?

I think Elliot's dad did an interview about him.  It was on Youtube. I'm not sure if it was good or bad as I didn't watch it. I just remember coming across it.

I know James Holmes was supposedly very smart and did well in school...I don't know much about his upbringing but maybe he had a good relationship with his parents? I think they were present at his trial.

Adam Lanza had a decent relationship with his father when he was younger. They spent a lot of time together doing activities on weekends, even after his parents separated and his father moved out. He thought Adam had a sharp sense of humor and they liked to talk politics and economics. The relationship became strained after an argument over schooling and Adam cut contact with him entirely in late 2010.

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And unfortunately we will never be able to ask Nancy Lanza what her relationship with Adam was like throughout his life :/

Littlelo wrote:

And unfortunately we will never be able to ask Nancy Lanza what her relationship with Adam was like throughout his life :/

Adam told a friend in 2011 or 2012 that their relationship was strained and he couldn't communicate with her because "her behavior was not rational and she was unwilling to talk about certain topics that he felt were important."

Someone related a story that Nancy told where she asked Adam if he would be upset if anything happened to her and he responded that he wouldn't. This was some time around 2010. In his younger years, they seemed to be closer. In fact, they were so close that Peter Lanza felt that the relationship sometimes came between him and Adam.

These are e-mails between the two of them from when he was 16 years old. It seems that back then, she was leaning on a teenager with autism for emotional support, which is not a good idea. It might explain why he tried to push her away later on.
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There is an account from someone who worked at the movie theater that Adam often visited which suggests that things may not have been good at home. I can't say that it was the relationship between Adam and his mother which made him reluctant to go home but it's a possibility.
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On Nancy's phone, there were only two texts out of nearly 700 in total which referenced Adam. The first one stands out to me, considering how emaciated Adam was. How did she fail to notice that he was malnourished to the point of brain damage? She was clearly in denial about many things, especially Adam's mental and physical health.
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I do think that Nancy cared deeply for Adam but she also had her own issues. She told her friends that she was diagnosed with a chronic, potentially fatal disease and this was not true. Her ex-husband didn't know that the diagnosis was not real until after she died and investigators went through her medical records. It's unknown whether she ever told Adam that she was suffering from a fatal disease but it's a possibility.

Matthew Lysiak's book tells this story of Nancy's dream about Adam.
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Nancy didn't seem to understand Adam and he didn't understand her but they were both overly dependent on each other in different ways. When Adam pushed her away, she didn't know how to handle it.

Wow I had no idea there was this much available regarding their relationship. Thanks for sharing. The dream she describes is haunting.