The part of me that identifies with Eric and Dylan is the one that has always felt like a caged animal - trapped, oppressed, imprisoned, burdened, shackled, chained. My ultimate goal has always been freedom - freedom to do the things I want; freedom from having to do the things I don't want; and, most importantly, freedom from needing or wanting or expecting anything.
I used to think that this desire for freedom was a universal human condition, but now I'm not so sure. Certain people seem to find servitude more intolerable than others. I've heard that most people find loneliness unbearable. But all of the happiest times of my life have been moments when I've felt completely, totally alone. I savor my precious moments of solitude. I cherish them. Most of the time I am surrounded by creatures that I loathe and despise, and I curse myself for my inability to get rid of them.
I don't like people - I mean, I really don't. I don't have any friends; I don't have a girlfriend; I don't have a wife and kids. I don't have anyone in my life and I don't really want anyone in my life. People make demands of me. They won't leave me alone. They won't let me be. They burden me with demands and obligations and responsibilities. They guilt-trip me into helping them. (Sometimes they tell me they will kill themselves if I don't do what they want.) They need me; they want me. I don't need them or want them. But sometimes I have to use them to get what I want. If I could do without them, I would. But I can't. I resent them for making such heavy demands of me, and I resent myself for not being strong enough to overcome our mutual interdependence.
There have been times when I have strongly considered killing myself. One time I was standing on a bridge overlooking a busy expressway and thought, "All you have to do is jump, and it will all be over." (My next thought was, "With your luck, you'll survive with permanent paralysis, and then you'll really be screwed.") What kept me from doing it was a) a residual fear of going to hell, instilled in me during the years when my grandmother insisted on dragging me to church every Sunday, b) a well-honed talent for finding ways to distract myself from my despair, and c) a deep-seated belief that, ultimately, people who commit suicide are weak, contemptible fools.
When I was 18 years old, my feelings of being trapped in an endless nightmare were so strong that I could barely breathe. My boiling rage stemmed from the fact that I felt completely powerless to improve anything about my life. In my mid-thirties, the pressure has eased considerably, but progress is still measured more by the (relative) absence of pain than by the presence of joy.
Something tells me that both Eric and Dylan felt just as trapped and just as powerless as I once did, and that going NBK was their method of seeking release from the eternal torment. They saw no way out but death. I saw no way out but ... taking things one day at a time, and hoping that eventually there would be something better. Generally speaking, my faith has been rewarded; gradually, I have moved closer and closer to a state of contentedness. It's been a long, slow, arduous journey. But I have traveled quite a long distance from where I started.
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Why does anyone do anything?