Columbine High School Massacre Discussion Forum
Would you like to react to this message? Create an account in a few clicks or log in to continue.
Columbine High School Massacre Discussion Forum

A place to discuss the Columbine High School Massacre along with other school shootings and crimes.
Anyone interested in researching, learning, discussing and debating with us, please come join our community!
 
HomeHome  PortalPortal  CalendarCalendar  Latest imagesLatest images  FAQFAQ  SearchSearch  MemberlistMemberlist  RegisterRegister  Log inLog in  

 

 Was Nancy a good mother?

Go down 
+3
UncontinuedProcess
Lizpuff
Gold Digger
7 posters
AuthorMessage
Gold Digger

Gold Digger


Posts : 116
Contribution Points : 54014
Forum Reputation : 177
Join date : 2019-03-30
Age : 21

Was Nancy a good mother? Empty
PostSubject: Was Nancy a good mother?   Was Nancy a good mother? Icon_minitimeThu May 09, 2019 10:31 am

I've been curious about Adam's relationship with his mother as well as she was like. I mean no disrespect to her. RIP Nancy

_________________
Dark. Light. God. Lucifer. Heaven. Hell. GOOD. BAD.
Back to top Go down
Lizpuff

Lizpuff


Posts : 2677
Contribution Points : 96949
Forum Reputation : 1190
Join date : 2016-03-02
Age : 36

Was Nancy a good mother? Empty
PostSubject: Re: Was Nancy a good mother?   Was Nancy a good mother? Icon_minitimeThu May 09, 2019 1:14 pm

From what I know people liked her and thought she was a good mother. She was the one to take interest in guns and took Adam shooting.

_________________
Hold me now I need to feel complete
Like I matter to the one I need
Back to top Go down
Guest
Guest




Was Nancy a good mother? Empty
PostSubject: Re: Was Nancy a good mother?   Was Nancy a good mother? Icon_minitimeThu May 09, 2019 2:50 pm

I believe she had good intentions, had Adam's best interests at heart, but could be forceful and overbearing at times in her interactions with others.

Whether she was overbearing and forceful to Adam remains up for speculation, but considering Adam seemed to get his own way and "control his mother's behavior" according to the Yale child psychiatrists, I would say no, but things aren't always so black and white.

It's just as likely she indulged Adam a little too much and sheltered him, was too protective, at least in his younger years. It seemed in the few years he was alive as an adult she was trying to "coax him out of the nest" so to speak.

All in all, I don't believe Nancy was a bad mother. Not perfect, but who is. She provided a comfortable life for Adam and afforded him all kinds of opportunities not everyone is offered in life.

Sadly Adam was too paralyzed by his psychological issues to let his mother, or anyone for that matter, help him.

I hate to think of anyone as beyond help, but in a situation like that, what can you really do? I don't have the answer, and neither did Nancy it seems, although she was desperately searching for one, and that shows she cared.
Back to top Go down
Guest
Guest




Was Nancy a good mother? Empty
PostSubject: Re: Was Nancy a good mother?   Was Nancy a good mother? Icon_minitimeThu May 09, 2019 3:27 pm

I think she was a good mother, or at least she thought she was. Adam thought she was very overbearing. I really don't think she ever realized that she was.
Back to top Go down
UncontinuedProcess

UncontinuedProcess


Posts : 487
Contribution Points : 67832
Forum Reputation : 430
Join date : 2017-10-22

Was Nancy a good mother? Empty
PostSubject: Re: Was Nancy a good mother?   Was Nancy a good mother? Icon_minitimeThu May 09, 2019 6:29 pm

There were choices made by Nancy could be considered disagreeable to say the least but regardless at the end of the day, she too was murdered. I won't really label her as co-conspirator as some people in the mainstream seem to label her as such at times.
Back to top Go down
AllanLionChild

AllanLionChild


Posts : 47
Contribution Points : 50285
Forum Reputation : 30
Join date : 2019-03-05
Age : 23
Location : Denmark

Was Nancy a good mother? Empty
PostSubject: Re: Was Nancy a good mother?   Was Nancy a good mother? Icon_minitimeSun May 12, 2019 2:07 am

Many people criticize Nancy for introducing Adam to firearms, especially the media. But they forget that Sue Klebold was also criticized for not introducing Dylan to guns, arguing that if he had had proper experience with guns, surely he wouldn't have used them the way he did.

This isn't to say that Nancy was flawless, no parent is. But I think that she had Adam's best intentions in mind in everything she did. It's sad that it had to end the way it did.

_________________
oof.
Back to top Go down
Guest
Guest




Was Nancy a good mother? Empty
PostSubject: Re: Was Nancy a good mother?   Was Nancy a good mother? Icon_minitimeThu May 16, 2019 1:11 pm

My view is that Nancy Lanza was very controlling of Adam. After all, Adam had said in the past to one of his online friends that he had a strained relationship with his mom. I suppose I don't have direct proof of this assertion about his mom, just a hunch from my personal experiences of dealing with people.
Back to top Go down
smiggleshamster

smiggleshamster


Posts : 12
Contribution Points : 45919
Forum Reputation : 0
Join date : 2019-06-15

Was Nancy a good mother? Empty
PostSubject: Re: Was Nancy a good mother?   Was Nancy a good mother? Icon_minitimeSun Jun 16, 2019 6:40 pm

This is in no disrespect to Nancy, to start off.

I think that her heart was in the right place where it came to her profoundly sick son, Adam. From what I know, she did just about everything for Adam, which is nice in the moment, but if Adam was to never do what he did, having his mother do everything for him would not be the best in the long run. Interesting enough, my own mother & I were talking about this (not Nancy herself) topic about child raising and "helicopter parenting" since we have family members who did so with their own children only for the child to grow up not self-sufficient. Of course, Adam was sick, like I mentioned before, so it is a little bit different because he needed accommodations for his day to day life.

In no way am I saying that Nancy was a helicopter mom, but I think that she had Adam's best interest in mind, and took it a little bit far by doing every little thing for him. I'm nobody to nitpick how someone parents, but I think that perhaps she could have helped him learn how to do laundry, dishes, and other household chores.

On the topic of guns, Nancy was very into guns and brought Adam to gun ranges during his life. His mental state was not very good, and he had Asperger's. Correct me if I'm wrong but, I read somewhere that people on the Autism spectrum can develop special interests and latch onto a topic. In Adam's case, guns. If I was the parent in that situation and saw that my Autistic son was becoming more and more interested in weapons and violence, I would try my best to get him into more positive interests and hobbies.

In conclusion, I think that Nancy was a good mother, and that her heart was in the right place with nothing but good intentions. I just have little ideas of how I would have done things differently, if I was in her situation. She is loved, and was a diligent mother who in my opinion, never gave up on her son. Again, like I stated before, I'm not trying to disrespect Nancy at all. She deserved to have a long life, and was sadly cut short. RIP.

_________________
"Excuse me for not being thrilled by the extra jimmies on my ice cream cone.”
Back to top Go down
smiggleshamster

smiggleshamster


Posts : 12
Contribution Points : 45919
Forum Reputation : 0
Join date : 2019-06-15

Was Nancy a good mother? Empty
PostSubject: Re: Was Nancy a good mother?   Was Nancy a good mother? Icon_minitimeSun Jun 16, 2019 6:43 pm

AllanLionChild wrote:
This isn't to say that Nancy was flawless, no parent is. But I think that she had Adam's best intentions in mind in everything she did. It's sad that it had to end the way it did.

Very well said. I agree with you fully. Nobody, not just parents are perfect. The concept of being "perfect" is simply an opinion, not everyone is gonna come to the same agreement that someone is "perfect", just like how people don't always agree if a woman is attractive or not. It's in the eye of the beholder, so to speak.

_________________
"Excuse me for not being thrilled by the extra jimmies on my ice cream cone.”
Back to top Go down
QuestionMark
Top 10 Contributor
QuestionMark


Posts : 4349
Contribution Points : 121153
Forum Reputation : 3191
Join date : 2017-09-04

Was Nancy a good mother? Empty
PostSubject: Re: Was Nancy a good mother?   Was Nancy a good mother? Icon_minitimeSun Jun 16, 2019 9:46 pm

smiggleshamster wrote:
If I was the parent in that situation and saw that my Autistic son was becoming more and more interested in weapons and violence, I would try my best to get him into more positive interests and hobbies.

Like what? Genuine question here. What would you introduce to him to steer him away from his more negative interests?

_________________
"My guns are the only things that haven't stabbed me in the back."
-Kip Kinkel
Back to top Go down
smiggleshamster

smiggleshamster


Posts : 12
Contribution Points : 45919
Forum Reputation : 0
Join date : 2019-06-15

Was Nancy a good mother? Empty
PostSubject: Re: Was Nancy a good mother?   Was Nancy a good mother? Icon_minitimeMon Jun 17, 2019 12:27 am

QuestionMark wrote:
Like what? Genuine question here. What would you introduce to him to steer him away from his more negative interests?
 I'm not exactly sure what I would introduce him to hypothetically, but something I've thought about is how he was very interested in DDR, so maybe he could have done something with that. Of course, I didn't know Adam so I wouldn't know what would peak his interest. For me at least, I've always been into art and music, as it always seems to help me look at positives, but for all I know Adam could have disliked doing art or music.

_________________
"Excuse me for not being thrilled by the extra jimmies on my ice cream cone.”
Back to top Go down
Tesla101

Tesla101


Posts : 59
Contribution Points : 48679
Forum Reputation : 135
Join date : 2019-04-02
Location : United Kingdom

Was Nancy a good mother? Empty
PostSubject: Re: Was Nancy a good mother?   Was Nancy a good mother? Icon_minitimeMon Jun 17, 2019 6:48 am

The road to hell is paved with good intentions. Whichever way you look at it, she was a terrible mother. She reinforced his social anxiety by communicating over email and allowing him to manifest his hate alone, she bought a mentally ill child guns to play with, she pampered him to the point where he could demand whatever he wanted and he would get it.

Buying everything your child wants, bowing to every demand and being their slave is not a good way to raise a child.
Back to top Go down
Sponsored content





Was Nancy a good mother? Empty
PostSubject: Re: Was Nancy a good mother?   Was Nancy a good mother? Icon_minitime

Back to top Go down
 
Was Nancy a good mother?
Back to top 
Page 1 of 1
 Similar topics
-
» Interview with Val Schnurr's Mother
» A Mother's Reckoning- Review
» Why did Adam kill his Mother?
» dylan's mother book
» Almost finished with A Mother's Reckoning.

Permissions in this forum:You cannot reply to topics in this forum
Columbine High School Massacre Discussion Forum :: Other Crimes :: Sandy Hook Elementary School Shooting-
Jump to: